Comments on: Sorry Doesn’t Spoil

By: emaginette

emaginette — Sun, 14 Oct 2012 17:16:10 +0000

It actually sounds like part of the Twelve-Steps Program, so yeah, I admire her. And I hope she makes it.

By: Gina Hepburn

Gina Hepburn — Sun, 14 Oct 2012 15:08:17 +0000

A very similar thing happened to me! About a year after I transferred schools when I was 12 due to bullying, the girl responsible for much of my misery called and apologised to me. I was too shocked to give her much of a response other than ‘thank you’ but even then I was able to see how brave she was to do that. It’s so amazing what a sorry will do, yet it’s often the hardest word to say. Thanks for sharing this story Myndi!

By: patodearosen

patodearosen — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 16:28:09 +0000

I admire your tomentor’s apparent sincerity and the grace with which you accepted her apology. You’re a good person, Myndi.

By: Myndi Shafer...one stray sock away from insanity.

Myndi Shafer...one stray sock away from insanity. — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:53:03 +0000

I tend to be the same way. I tend to carry that stuff around with me, unless I can find a way to say sorry. And even if the person I’ve offended doesn’t accept the apology, it’s still freeing to me to have made strides toward fixing the wrong.

By: Myndi Shafer...one stray sock away from insanity.

Myndi Shafer...one stray sock away from insanity. — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:51:13 +0000

Absolutely – I think forgiveness can happen whether or not the offender seeks it. I’d let go of that stuff years before. It still made an impact, though, to hear the words spoken.

By: Myndi Shafer...one stray sock away from insanity.

Myndi Shafer...one stray sock away from insanity. — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:49:41 +0000

That’s really interesting – before today I’d never given any thought as to why she was calling. *shrug* If it was because of a 12 step program, I really, really hope she was able to reach her goals there.

By: Myndi Shafer...one stray sock away from insanity.

Myndi Shafer...one stray sock away from insanity. — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:48:20 +0000

Honestly, I’d let go of all that stuff years ago, but even so, hearing from her made an impact. You never know – it might be good for him to hear from you, and talking to him after all these years might be cathartic for you.

By: Myndi Shafer...one stray sock away from insanity.

Myndi Shafer...one stray sock away from insanity. — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:43:33 +0000

By: Marcy Kennedy

Marcy Kennedy — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 13:27:21 +0000

What a brave thing for her to do. I never been on the receiving end, but I have been on the giving end. I usually forget about the wrongs others have done to me pretty quickly, but the stupid things I do haunt me until I can get them off my chest.

By: Kecia Adams

Kecia Adams — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 10:32:49 +0000

I was just talking to my 14 yr old about a girl who used to torture me in HS. Good thing I had friends to defend me because I was helpless in the face of that sort of targeted malice. But aan apology does go a long way and it helps to forgive even if the apology never comes. Good story!