Autumn 2012

A couple years ago, when things were financially tight for our family (understatement? Um, yeah), I made the decision to sell my wedding ring. Not an easy decision to make, but easier than you might expect when you have a few kids and one on the way and all sorts of other circumstances that seem to lurk like giant monsters around dark corners ready to gobble you up like the world’s tastiest appetizer.

Selling my ring brought to light a couple of things:

*Diamonds, for a consumer looking to re-sell, are pretty much worthless. We pay a tremendous of cash (or borrow a tremendous amount of credit) for these gorgeous shiny rocks (that may or may not have been dug from the earth in humane environments) with the expectation that we can always get our money back out of them should we want to. *enter canned laughter here*

*Precious metals are more valuable than we’d thought.

We were lucky. We shopped around a little, and found a local jeweler who gave us a fair price for my ring. Nowhere near what we paid for it, but still, all things considered (including our somewhat desperate situation), we did pretty well. Was it hard to sell it, emotionally? You bet. Worth it? Absolutely? Do I miss the pretty thing my husband gave me on our wedding day? Immensely. But I’ve never regretted doing it, not for one second.

The Hubster and I have spent a lot of time talking and thinking about replacing my wedding ring. We were dang kids when we bought the first one, and pretty much dove in for the shiniest, sparkliest thing the jeweler could throw our way, price-tag be damned. This time, for our Wedding Ring Do-Over, we wanted to do things a little differently.

(1) I knew immediately that I didn’t want a natural diamond, regardless of whether or not it was humanely mined by an environmentally sound mining firm. Honestly, I’m not sure one exists other than maybe on paper. Lab created diamonds are ridiculously close to the real thing for a fraction of the cost, and frankly, after seeing what the re-sale value of diamonds are (not that I’m anticipating having to sell my next ring), I’m not interested in blowing a wad of cash on a rock that only has perceived value when it’s beneath the glass in a jewelry store.

(2) We both knew we wanted it to be special, and simpleΒ – preferably something T came up with himself.

(3) We would pay cash for the ring. Even though my previous ring had long since been paid off, it had still been a debt we were saddled with for a long time. Debt’s a bitch, people. I can’t stress that enough, and when I look at Wedding Ring #2, the last thing I want to think is Did we remember to send our payment in on time???

shrilugh ringSo here’s the long and short of it. Using Diamond Nexus Labs custom ring design, the Hubster designed this gorgeous ring for me. The band is a twig and a Shrilugh leaf (ohmysqueeeeee), with a single diamond. It’s GORGEOUS! Feel free to fill the comments with accolades over how fantastic a job he did designing it. But what’s really exciting, is Diamond Nexus has put the ring into their design contest. If we get enough votes, we’ll get my ring for FREE!!

I would totally be freaking out. FREAKING OUT, people.

Anyway, if you feel compelled, please head on over there, and vote for #23. It takes 30 seconds, max. If his design wins, I’ll be throwing a big-@$$ party here at Life Between The Pages, because OH MY GOSH, that would definitely be a thing to celebrate!!

Thanks a gazillion,



55 thoughts on “WEDDING RING DO-OVER (Vote for #23)

  1. Angela Brown says:

    I was glad to vote for it over some of the more garish looking rings. Sometimes, it can’t be said enough how much beauty there is in simplicity. And as someone who briefly sold jewelry as a second job because, heck yeah, I totally understand doing what you have to do in hard times, I completely agree that lab created diamonds are just as gorgeous.

  2. Joan Price says:

    I voted – I posted asking for more votes and hopefully you will be having that beautiful ring on your finger real soon. What a wonderfully beautiful heartfelt design – T did great.

  3. Julie Glover says:

    How lovely! I’ve always liked my simple solitaire engagement ring. But if I had a do-over, I’d change the wedding ring part. Your husband did a terrific job! Going over to vote. πŸ™‚

  4. Molly Pendlebury says:

    I voted and for reals…..I was my favorite!! It’s so pretty and unique. Can’t wait for the photo of it shining even more brightly on your gorgeous hand.

  5. Kassandra Lamb says:

    It really was my favorite. There were a couple others I liked almost as well, but yeah, most of them were way too ornate. Hope you win the ring, but you are already a winner with T as a hubster!

  6. Lynnette Conroy says:

    Oh my, this is the best story. I voted and passed the link along via Twitter and FB….here’s hoping you win. What a stunning, thoughtful design! And I agree with Angela, some of the were so ostentatious it was awful – your hubs had good taste.

  7. Karen McFarland says:

    May I just say Myndi that my DH and I understand. We went through something very similar to your situation. We sold all our jewelry. What it really brings to heart is that material possessions do not give us true happiness. Yes, they can bring us some form of joy. But, unless you are a millionaire and are buying a diamond for investment purposes, no, you will not get back the money you paid for your diamond or any piece of jewelry. I like the design of the new ring. Someone else I see has a creative mind. And talent, I might add. I hope that everything is better and that you and your family are back on the financial track. It can be quite stressful when going through something like that. But, as I’m sure you will agree, since you’ve been there and back, the experience does put things in their proper perspective, doesn’t it? Big hugs to you Myndi. I hope you win! πŸ™‚

  8. Lynn Kelley says:

    I honestly like your ring the best out of all those rings. It’s beautiful and how special that it has a leaf from your series. Your hubby did a great job designing it. I don’t have a big diamond, just .20 karats, but the prong sticks up too far, and when I had our first baby, I scratched him with it, so I quit wearing it and instead wear my mother’s gold band, no diamonds. Nice and simple, lightweight. I’m not a big jewelry person, can hardly stand to wear earrings or a necklace more than a few hours.

    I’m glad you got a fair price for your original ring. You’re right about the resale value. It really does suck. You made a wise decision going with your do-over ring.

    • Fantasy For the Rest of Us. says:

      Thanks Lynn! Oh, man – I scratched my eldest once when he was a baby….I just felt so awful. I started turning my ring in and holding my finger down over it. Not exactly comfortable…probably would have been way more practical to take the darn thing off! *grin*

  9. Emma Burcart says:

    I voted. Yours was defintely the simplest, which is lovely. But, if I was going to be in a fist fight, I’d want number 31 on my hand. If I could lift it, it would give me a serious advantage. πŸ™‚

  10. Kristy K. James says:

    Done. It’s beautiful. How long will the voting process last? Because I have several email addresses. If you post FB reminders, I’ll be glad to vote with those ones, too. πŸ™‚

      • Kristy K. James says:

        Hmm. Apparently the wedding ring site keeps track of of IP addresses because I can’t vote again. It won’t even give me that option, just thanks me for taking ‘the survey.’ Sorry, Myndi. 😦

      • Fantasy For the Rest of Us. says:

        LOL, no worries! It seems to do that depending on the browser you’re using. I know it won’t let you vote more than once using Chrome, but it will using Safari. Please don’t sweat it, though! I’m just so tickled (blown away, actually) by the response we’ve gotten. I’m stunned by how many of you have clicked through to the website. Feeling uber, mega-loved. ❀

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